I recently read an article online by a Better Homes and Gardens Writer titled, The 10 commandments of dining with little kids. It was one of the most anti-family articles I can imagine coming from a magazine that is promoting a good home life.
Check out the article here.
You’ll notice that the title of the article is now changed to The 9 commandments of dining with little kids. This is because Better Homes and Gardens removed one of the commandments because of public outcry.
Which commandment do you think that was?
- Thou shalt not block traffic with bulky strollers
- Thou shalt not order a 10-course tasting menu with kids under 10
- Thou shalt not treat your server like a sitter
- Thou shalt not breast feed at the table
- Thou shall feel free to order “kid food” off the menu
- Thou shall not turn dinner into a photoshoot
- Thou shalt not bring noisy toys
- Thou shall try to quell high-pitched screaming
- Thou shalt not allow free-range kids
- Thou shall calmly discourage food fights
If you guessed #4, Thou shalt not breast feed at the table, then you are correct.
Really Better Homes and Gardens? In a time when studies are showing that the United States could save $13 billion per year in health care costs if women breastfed their babies for at least 12 months, you’re going to continue discouraging women?
It’s a sad state of affairs when only 33% of moms are still breastfeeding at 3 months and only 14% of moms are still breastfeeding at 6 months. Somehow formula feeding has become the norm instead of breastfeeding. Shouldn’t we be encouraging women to breastfeed… Not making it harder or less appealing?
But that one commandment isn’t the only upsetting part of this article. The entire article has a very anti-family tone to it. Because I have kids, you want me to hide at home and not enjoy an evening out with the family every once in a while?
We will go out to dinner with our girls. We will order whatever we want off the menu. And we will take pictures when we feel inclined. If you don’t like it, you can mind your own business.
Perhaps my attitude has changed after living in a very family-friendly country, but I see nothing wrong with bringing your children to a restaurant.
In Uruguay, children are allowed to roam freely throughout the restaurant when they are tired of sitting still. After all, meals average 2-3 hours here. And guess what, no one is bothered by it!
Same goes with breastfeeding in public. When Zoë was a baby, in the US, I felt very ashamed to breastfeed in public. I was made to feel as if I was the abnormal one because I “chose” to breastfeed to term.
In Uruguay, breastfeeding is the norm and everyone breastfeeds openly in public. I can breastfeed Kaylee at the table in a restaurant without getting a second glance.
The US really needs to re-evaluate how it treats breastfeeding women. When we return to the US in September, I’ll proudly breastfeed Kaylee in public. Maybe in some small way, I can change at least one person’s perception by doing so.