Our Ever-Changing Co-Sleeping Arrangements

Before Kaylee was born, I wrote about my thoughts and feelings on co-sleeping, and how I wondered what it would be like to co-sleep with two little ones. Then I gave an update on our co-sleeping arrangements after Kaylee was born.

It has been a while since I talked about co-sleeping (Kaylee is already 6 months old!), so I thought I would share how things have changed in our household—and they have changed.

Zoë has decided that she no longer wants to sleep with us. I was a little surprised by that change. However, she doesn’t want to sleep in her room (we’ve tried both a twin bed and a Tinkerbell toddler bed with no luck)… she wants to sleep on the couch.

At first, I felt like a bad parent for allowing her to sleep on the couch. However, after thinking more about it and letting myself get used to the idea, I decided that if that’s where she’s comfortable, then I should just let her be.

When it’s a problem is in the middle of the night when she wakes up wanting Mommy. She refuses to come into our bed, so I have to lay on the couch with her—not my idea of a good night’s rest. Especially when Kaylee wakes up because I’m not next to her anymore.

Kaylee and Zoë have definitely traded roles in that respect. While we were living in Uruguay, Kaylee was sleeping happily in her own bassinet where she could spread out. When we got back to the US 2 months ago, she started sleeping with us since she didn’t have a crib yet.

Well, she got used to sleeping with us and having easy access to mama’s milk at night. So, even though she was sleeping through the night, that’s a thing of the past. She wakes up anywhere from 1 to 6 times every night to nurse. I guess she has decided that I’m her pacifier.

So, we installed bed rail on my side of the bed to make things safer for her to sleep with us. Because even though Zoë doesn’t want to sleep with us, there are some nights where I have to bring her into our bed because both her and Kaylee want Mommy at the same time and I can’t have them lying next to each other or they keep each other up.

Zoë likes to kiss Kaylee and rub her chubby little arms. Kaylee likes to giggle and pull Zoë’s hair. While it’s sweet that they love each other so much, I need a little sleep ☺

So, while at 27 months Zoë has already decided that she is done co-sleeping, at least I still get snuggles from Kaylee every night.

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  1. says

    I tried to click your links and they didn’t work for me…I was just curious as to how your husband feels about the c0-sleeping arrangement. Sounds like there’s lots of transition going on right now. My two year old son loves to nap w/me on occassion as a special treat but we have him in his own bed other than that. Your approach is one that I am very interested in learning more about. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Chrystal says

    Hi Mary Joy,

    We just moved my blog to a new platform so some of my links are broken – I’m working on fixing that now. The links in this post will work now.

    My husband is very supportive. I wrote about it in this post. He loves having our children in our bed (for the most part) and it feels completely natural to him to have them close when they need us. Now that our 2-year old doesn’t want to sleep with us, he mentioned that he misses her snuggling with him – so sweet! Having a supportive partner is so important!

  3. says

    Thanks for sharing! It’s ever changing for us as well! Our second is now 16 months old and we have a ‘family bed’ in one bedroom because the other bedroom is in the middle of a remodel. For over two years we’ve had a queen mattress on the floor with crib size one on the side, it works so well! Mostly because with kids, I hate beds, we all got so many bruises from hitting it and tripping on it. I love just having mattresses on the floor and can definitely see why that’s the norm in many cultures. We just recently got a Twin size mattress for our 4 year old, so now it is a twin and queen right next to each other. My son still wakes up at least twice a night to nurse, I really don’t mind – I don’t even wake up and never look at the clock. Another benefit of night nursing – it actually keeps you from ovulating longer, night nursing is like built-in birth control lol

    I also wanted to mention – you said he uses you as a pacifier. But if you really think about it, the boob is the REAL thing – so it’s more like babies are using a ‘pacifier as a boob’ not the other way around. You’re doing great, it’s really all about what works well for your own family!
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