Co-Sleeping Comes Naturally

by Chrystal Johnson on December 21, 2009

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Before having children, I would never have thought in a million years that I’d be a co-sleeper. I was sure that my baby would sleep in her crib and hubby and I would sleep in our bed.

All of that changed the day Zoë was born. She slept better lying on my chest, so I let her. Even in the hospital, she slept in the bed with me most of the time.

The first few weeks, I struggled to get her to sleep in the cradle next to our bed, but she just never slept well there. So, she ended up back in our bed, either on my chest or on my right side, right under my armpit – she liked it there for some reason.

Since I was breastfeeding, having her in our bed just made things easier. It took a couple months, but I got the hang of nursing lying down, and I found that I got more sleep once I accepted the fact that we were a co-sleeping family.

I really stressed over the situation for a while. I didn’t want my husband to be resentful of the fact that our baby was in our bed. But, he enjoyed having her close as much as I did.

She slept with us nearly every night until I weaned her at 13 months. Now, she still ends up in our bed halfway through the night most night – she’s started having nightmares. Hopefully this phase will end soon and she’ll be back in her bed. If not, that’s okay too.

After really thinking about it, a baby’s desire to sleep with his or her parents really makes sense from an evolutionary perspective. Back when humans were nomads, babies would have to sleep with their parents or they would be an easy target for predators.

Babies are so helpless on their own, and they need their parents to protect them. Humans are such a unique species in that way. So, to me, it makes sense that babies are programmed with the instinct to want their parents by their side.

I now find myself wondering whether Kaylee will be as much of a snuggler as Zoë is. Will she want to sleep with me every night? I know not all babies enjoy co-sleeping, but I think it really helped to bond Zoë and I (and Zoë and Daddy). I guess I’ll find out soon. Less than two months until my due date.

We’ll have a cradle in our room so she can sleep there for naps and maybe at night. But, I‘ll be perfectly happy if she wants to co-sleep like Zoë. All four of us in a full size bed… what a cozy little family we’ll be.

About Chrystal Johnson

Chrystal, publisher of Happy Mothering, is a mother of two sweet girls who believes in living a simple, natural lifestyle. A former marketing manager, Chrystal spends her time researching green and eco-friendly alternatives to improve her family's life. She enjoys sharing those discoveries with anyone who's willing to listen.

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1 Alessandra December 22, 2009 at 8:10 am

Oh, I’m totally with you, and I enjoy it too, it gives me a sense of fulfillment ;-)
I’m so cuddly!

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2 Anastasia @ eco-babyz
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April 26, 2013 at 8:12 pm

We LOVE to cosleep and my husband enjoys it too! We have a queen mattress on the floor and recently put a twin next to it, works great for the four of us. Bedtime is extra special :)
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