Before I got pregnant with Zoë, Brian and I didn’t talk too much about parenting styles or expectations. We talked about the basics, but didn’t get too in depth about our expectations. After I got pregnant, we started talking and researching more, but still didn’t know completely what to expect. It’s hard to know exactly how you’re going to deal with a situation until it’s in front of you.
Luckily, over time our parenting style developed naturally and, for the most part, we are always on the same page. Brian has been on board with all of the natural parenting choices that we have made. I can’t imagine being married to someone who wasn’t supportive of those choices.
We made our first natural parenting choice very early in the pregnancy – not to vaccinate. We got a lot of pressure and questions from family and friends about this decision, but we stood strong together. It was that decision that really drove me into research mode on everything related to children and parenting.
After doing a lot of research during my pregnancy, I made the decision to exclusively breastfeed, get into babywearing and use biodegradable diapers, BPA free plastic products and non-toxic baby care products. Of course there are always bumps in the road, but that was the general direction I wanted to go in. Brian was very supportive of all of those choices.
So much so, that for the first few months, there were times when we would bicker about who would get to wear Zoë when we were out. He liked wearing her as much as I did, and still wears her frequently in our Kelty Carrier.
One thing we didn’t plan on, but fell into naturally, was co-sleeping. Zoë slept better (hence I slept better) and it made breastfeeding easier. I was really worried that Brian wouldn’t be happy about having the baby in our bed. But he was completely supportive and, even now, loves having Zoë in our bed with us. I think co-sleeping has made our family closer.
Now we’re expecting baby #2 to arrive any day, and we plan to follow the same natural parenting principles that we followed with Zoë. Our parenting style has worked well for us and has helped us become a very close family. It doesn’t matter if anyone else supports my parenting decisions, because my husband does. I’m grateful to be married to such a supportive man.