Are you struggling with mom guilt? It's far too common for working moms and stay at home moms! Read on to learn about some resources to help you banish your Mom Guilt today!
When I was younger, I never would have imagined I'd end up an entrepreneur. I always thought I'd climb the corporate ladder (I was well on my way to the top). But when my daughters were born, so was a whole new way of looking at the world.
Suddenly, I realized I wanted to be home with my daughters. I left my corporate job and decided to take some time to figure out what I wanted to do. I started out doing contract work, but I craved something more.
On a whim, I started Happy Mothering (in secret). At the time, it was a place for me to share all of the research I'd done on natural products and natural parenting.
However, it quickly grew into something much more – a business that could support my family! Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined becoming a professional blogger. It's still a crazy feeling.
Being a mompreneur has opened so many doors for me and shown me a whole different set of possibilities for this life. I'm home every day with my (homeschooled) kids and my husband. I don't have to get dressed up and put on makeup to go sit in corporate meetings all day. I can work in my PJs if I want and no one will ever know (or care).
Let's get real for a moment – being a mompreneur is not all sunshine and roses. I work long hours and I often feel guilty for not spending enough time with my kids. My husband does most of the homeschooling, so they get lots of quality Daddy time. I feel like they should get lots of mommy time too.
I think that feeling of “mom guilt” is quite common among mompreneurs. We feel guilty for working when we're home, but we know we need more than “just” being a mom. We need something for us too.
When I think of the perfect mom, I picture a mom from the 50s who's home with her kids and cooks great meals and keeps a tidy home. My house is often a mess, my husband cooks a lot of the meals and I don't feel like I spend enough time with my kids. I often feel as though I'm lacking as a mom to succeed in business.
It's not a nice feeling, so I often sacrifice self care when I do have free time in order to clean the house or spend time with my kids. I have started to wake up and realize I need to care for myself too.
And you know what, I'm a good mom. I know I am and I need to own that. I'm setting a good example for my daughters to follow their dreams. I'm showing them that you can make your own way, and you don't have to follow society's rules – you can make your own path.
Are you a working mom who feels like you don't get enough time with your kids or for yourself? Are you a stay at home mom who wishes she could pursue her passions, but feels guilty for having those feelings?
You're not alone! Mom Guilt is something we all struggle with in some way or another. The challenge is working through those feelings so we can know that we are the best version of ourselves that we can be. And whatever version of us that is, it's okay!
I just finished reading the Mom Guilt e-book and it really made me feel so much better about the life decisions I've made. Reading stories of other moms, in all different roles, made me feel that I can follow the path that feels right to me and my kids will still turn out great because I'm a great mom.
I highly recommend reading Mom Guilt. It's a super quick read (23 pages) and it's free. It'll be worth your time and you'll feel better about your motherhood journey when you're done reading it.
There is also an accompanying podcast that is quite interesting and emotionally helpful. I listened to the mompreneur episode and thought it was really great.
Both the e-book and podcast were put together as part of the Working Moms Mean Business campaign, which was created to encourage working moms.
Far too frequently, working moms are pictured as being totally stressed out and unable to meet their children's needs. We're trying to balance it all and be perfect at both home and work, and start to think maybe we should just be at home. But there are so many benefits to working that get swept under the rug.
Did you know that 60% of Americans say that children are better off with a parent at home?
Let's face it, that ideal isn’t reflective of real-world numbers of how many moms are in the workforce. In 2012, 71% of moms were in the workforce.
That gap between the ideal and reality is what is causing all of us to feel so much mom guilt. Here's the thing, we spend more time with our kids today than parents did in past generations!
In the Mom Guilt e-book, the author shares that 33% of parents say they don't spend enough time with their children (including 46% of fathers). Today, moms spend on average 14 hours per week with their children. That's 40% more hours than mothers did in 1965, according to Pew.
Say what? I spend more than 14 hours a week with my girls, so I guess I'm doing a lot better than I thought! The e-book goes on to give more data, including information about how girls with working moms are more independent and fare better in their careers. So I'm feeling pretty good about now!
No matter the source of your Mom Guilt, be sure to check out the Mom Guilt e-book and podcast series hosted by Emma Johnson, a personal finance writer and blogger on her website, Wealthy Single Mommy.