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Feeling a deep sense of self worth can feel elusive sometimes, especially for moms. Learn how to improve your self worth with these four tips.
Your sense of self worth is deeply tied to how you look at yourself and the value you feel you can offer to others. It’s linked very closely with your self-esteem, which is how you feel about yourself.
Feeling a sense of self worth is so much more important than you may think. It can and will shift your entire mindset and can actually keep you from being successful in your personal and professional life if you let it go the wrong way.
I find that keeping that feeling of self worth is especially hard for moms. We have so much on our plates, it often feels like we’re never enough.
Learn four tips that will help you learn how to improve your self worth and know that you are enough.
Demand Your Inner Critic Chill Out
Do you have low self esteem or find yourself constantly belittling and berating yourself in your head? More than likely, it’s your inner critic’s fault. Your inner critic is that little voice inside your head that likes to bring you down every time you take steps to look positively at yourself.
Perhaps it tells you that you don’t have what it takes to achieve your dreams, that you’re always doing everything wrong or that no matter what you do, you’ll never be good enough. It can be so hard to get out of this negative mindset because you often start to actually believe all of these thoughts that keep filling your head. Then you continue to devalue yourself more and more until you start to truly believe that you will never be able to achieve your goal.
The first step to stop this brutal cycle is to rediscover your self worth and gain more confidence by telling your inner critic to take a chill pill and pipe down. It will be very challenging in the beginning, but with time and effort, you’ll be able start focusing primarily on the positive points of your personal talents and successes, and stop worrying so much about the negative.
Celebrate Your Own Successes
One simply tactic you can use to help you stop listening to that voice in your head and feel great about yourself and your life is to celebrate all of your successes. No matter whether it’s big or small, we all have something we can be grateful for or proud of.
Perhaps you are going back to college or got a freelance job. Maybe you finished a project at work that was extremely difficult or you have mastered a new skill that was especially challenging for you. Maybe you finally got your toddler potty trained or got your pre-schooler to eat broccoli.
Celebrate all of your wins as they come. You can also sit down and deeply reflect on your past and present. Remember all of your successes, no matter how small, and celebrate yourself for them. If writing them down helps, do that.
Stick with Positive People
If you’ve done much self improvement reading, you’ve probably heard this piece of advice before. That’s because it’s so important to surround yourself with positive people – it makes a huge difference!
If you find that the majority of your friends and loved ones tend to put you down or not provide you with the support you need, you won’t be able to feel good about yourself. Instead, choose to surround yourself with uplifting people who support who you are and can help you along the way by encouraging you and reminding you of your self worth. Before too long, you’ll start to feel that way about yourself too.
Become More Self Aware
Self awareness is critical factor in increasing your self worth. You need to be keenly aware of all of your thoughts and actions.
If you don’t feel like you deserve something that’s important to you or that you aren’t strong enough work hard at something and achieve it, you need to figure out why. Sit quietly and figure out what thought, feeling, motivation or fear is preventing you from valuing yourself? If you look within, you’ll likely be able to discover what’s blocking you so you can remove the block and move forward.
This are just a few steps in improving your sense of self worth. It’s a long road, and one that doesn’t happen overnight. Keep chipping aware and you’ll value yourself more and more each day.