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Self love is a topic that more and more people are talking about, and for good reason. Before you can love anyone else unconditionally, you need to love yourself that way.
If you don’t have self love, it can impact your relationships with others, which can be highly complex and confusing on their own. The strangest thing is that you don’t actually need another person to have a difficult experience in a relationship – you can have a difficult relationship with yourself.
Pressures from the modern world are always crashing down onto people, so it’s not a huge surprise that a lot of people are finding that they need more self love in their lives. More people are realizing that they have to have love for themselves first and foremost.
If you haven’t really thought about this subject before, you may be curious about some of the signs that you need more self love. If any of these signs resonate with you, then you may want to put a greater focus on self love in your life.
1. You’ve Lost Interest in Things That Mattered Before
Do you have hobbies and interests that you used to take joy in, but they no longer get you excited you or make you feel good inside? If you’ve recently experienced a major attitude change about the things that used to motivate you to get out of bed in the morning, then it’s a possibility that you need more love for yourself. When you don’t take care of your emotional needs and you begin to allow stress to take over multiple areas of your life, the things that you once loved may not feel the same anymore.
Similar symptoms are found in depression as well. Feeling depressed can be a natural effect caused by unfulfillment in life. Maybe you have a job that isn’t in alignment with your skills or passions. Or perhaps an environment that you once enjoyed has started to feel oppressive.
These feelings can also be signs of burnout. The responsible, self-loving thing to do would be to allow yourself to have more time to relax and partake in activities that bring you joy. It’s important to work, but it’s critical to be balanced. Every time I find myself working more than caring for myself, I try to bring things back into balance.
When that balance gets murky, and it’s natural that it will once it may be time to take a break from living under constant pressure. The stress might not be a threat at the moment, but circumstances can shift rapidly, which can lead to you feeling overwhelmed. Try your best to keep life balance, and you’ll be less likely to burn yourself out.
2. Forgiving Minor Trespasses Feels Impossible
Have you ever caught yourself observing people and muttering unpleasant things under your breath or in your head? Misunderstandings do happen, and sometimes those things can seem like much bigger issues than they really are in the grand scheme of things.
When you aren’t feeling love for yourself, it’s a lot easier to get caught in a pattern of criticizing others and projecting your own negative feelings onto others. This habit of fault finding is different than talking to a friend in a calm way about a troublesome path they’ve chosen. That kind of talk comes out of concern, whereas fault finding is more rooted in a person’s need to put down others so they can avoid looking at their own faults.
When people make mistakes, it’s important to remember that people are incapable of being perfect (are you perfect?), so it’s healthier to extend the same kind of forgiveness that you would want to have. It does nothing for anyone to hold onto grudges and keep overthinking things other than burden your body with stress that has no outlet.
Spend some time reflecting on how little most of these minor issues that upset you actually affect your life. If you know that they won’t do any lasting damage, then it’s probably sufficient to say what you need to say to the person involved and move on. If not for them, do it for your own mental health.
3. You Feel Like an Impostor
One thing that we haven’t touched on so far in this article is the internal voice that each of us has inside. Sometimes your inner voice can play tricks on you and make you doubt yourself. The voice in your head might even attack and ridicule you randomly throughout the day. If this is the case, it is a good idea to concentrate on positive things about yourself more often. Maybe focus on positive affirmations throughout the day.
If you don’t love yourself enough, it can lead to cyclical bad behavior. Telling yourself that you might be fooling everyone around you and actually living in fear of that discovery is probably a lot less reasonable to accept when you look at the breadth of your actual achievements. Practice positive self-talk for a period of time, and it could help you to gain a more realistic view of yourself and your self worth.
4. You’re Less Assertive
Do you find yourself taking a back seat to things in life more often than not? Do you stand up for yourself or make your thoughts heard? If not, that can be a huge internal signal that you need more self love. Doing more healthy things for yourself will help you to feel better and be more in touch with your body. When you’re comfortable in life, you’ll be naturally more confident.
5. You Haven’t Been Showering as Often
One of the biggest telltale signs that you need to care for yourself more is that you haven’t been showering or bathing regularly. Lack of hygiene is a strong sign of depression and other related emotional disturbances. Make sure that you create a self care routine to keep yourself clean.
If you go without basic cleanliness, it can be easy to feel like nothing matters as much in your life. I always say, “When you look better, you feel better.” So go out of your way to make yourself feel better and make healthy choices. That alone could be a massive boost to your attitude.
If you’ve read these 5 signs that you need more self love in your life and they resonate with you, then it’s time to make a plan. Follow some of the tips in this article to help you re-discover what self love can mean for your life, and you and everyone around you will be happier.